Thanks everyone for the comments
S^X : OEM look is NOT for me, and if i could, i would have my wheels flush with the fenders however when you go from 14" stock bottlecap wheels to huge 19" wheels with a dish (AND direct bolt on) and low suspention, it is next to impossible to fit unless you are prepared to do major fender work, or even lift the car back up...neither of what i intend on doing as my e30 is probably one of the cleanest ones you will ever find. The picture makes the wheels look more "in" then they actually are.
As for the rear taillights, the stock OEM ones IMO are horrible...the ones that are on my car that you think are

are OEM smoked Hella's...brand new and imported from Germany. I'm glad nobody likes the same things on e30's...most "nice" e30's ALL look different and i think that's great.
Another crappy pic of my e30 that i found:
